Yesterday, we had our first community TRE® shake for this year. Last year, we ran one for every full moon, from about May till December, but the shifting days were a bit disruptive for us.
So this year, we finally settled on running them on the last Sunday of every month. This way, we can plan our dates ahead, and anyone who would like to make a regular date with us for a group shake can too!
A Cosy Group
Given the short run up time from our announcement of the event, we had a rather small turn out, which made for a very cosy start of our series. It meant we had a chance to take the time to share where we were before the shake, set intentions for what we hoped to release during the shake and also to share where we found ourselves post-shake.
It felt incredibly safe and intimate and I think that affected the quality of shake I had myself.
We all found that we had each experienced something new or unexpected in our shake given the new context, and my shake had such a profound effect on me that I found myself knocked out an hour later! That hasn’t happened for a while!
How does your system respond differently when you do TRE® in a group to when you do your shake alone?
How the Session Ran
Our attendee was someone who hadn’t done very much TRE® previously, so I guided a short stretching session before we got into the tremoring to make sure that she could access the tremor experience.
I was also aware of keeping an eye on what was going on with her and keeping a conversation going so that she could feel safe to speak up, and also so that she have suggestions for different things she could try during her shake.
I learned that my body was willing and able to do some pretty cool things even though my mind was also focused onward. My spine went into a flex / stretch that felt marvellous and I also experienced a heat release from my sacrum at one point. And, like I said, a hour after the shake, my system knocked me out for a good 45 minutes It was brilliant!
Today, my system is still in clearing mode with a runny nose, but I really felt connected with why I think having access to TRE® is so essential, and why having a routine of using it for self-care is so supportive for the wellness of our systems.
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I got the idea for because of a regular Provider group which Eric and I have been hosting since last year and how we always encourage each other to explore, only there is no particular system we follow. Each week, we take turns to hold space for the group and everyone brings a little something.
It made me think: I want everyone to have a chance to explore their own systems this way. Isn’t this part of what we want to do with TRE® anyway, to learn more about how our systems work and to support it to do what it does best so that we can be the best version of ourselves?
So then I thought: Why not? Why not PLAY and encourage others to take time to engage in play with their own systems?
From a teacher’s perspective, play is actually the ideal learning platform. When we play, we can discover so much about ourselves because when we play, we want to explore, we want to try, we aren’t afraid to fail, and we know that even if things don’t turn out the way we thought, we can always try again. When we play, we can dare to be more open, more hopeful, more curious, more willing to be surprised.
I know that when I play, I experience all of these, and I also give myself a chance to experience the joy of simply being tremendously present to where I am and what I am doing.
It was a great revelation to me that in this joy of being present, I feel incredibly safe. I know that I have all that I need for the moment and that, amazingly, is truly enough. And when I feel that safe, magic happens. My system opens up and shows me new things it wants to try because perhaps there is something that has been stuck a long time that I’ve been struggling to release, or sometimes there is something there which I haven’t felt willing to admit to because I’ve been afraid of being censured or judged by the worst judge of all: myself. I have experienced that the safer I feel within myself – and in play I feel very safe because I tell my inner judge to go and have a coffee break somewhere else because this is my time to be however I want to be – the more open I become to exploring and to discovering what it is I need to heal myself and to really let go of stress and tension that has been hanging about inside me.
With , I want nothing so much as for it to be a program which nurtures people’s curiosity about themselves while also being a time that they can experience as a gift to themselves because, perhaps for the first time in their lives, people might be opening to just slowing down and being with and listening to different parts of their systems that work hard every day – invisibly to us because we simply expect that it all just works – to keep us going.
I want these to be journeys of love, of falling in love with each and every part of us so that we know deeply how it feels to recognise and be integrally connected with the WHOLE of us.
So if you’re ready to fall in love with all of you, come join me on this adventure because
LIFE IS A JOURNEY AND HAVING FUN IS A PART OF IT!
What are YOU excited to discover about yourself?
2021 PLAYZone Schedule
2021 JULY Zone: Discover Breath – Breath as Resource
2021 AUGUST Zone: Recharge Hands & Feet
2021 SEPTEMBER Zone: Reset Shoulders & Neck
2021 OCTOBER Zone: Support Spine & Hips
2021 NOVEMBER Zone: Bridging Head and Heart
2021 DECEMBER Zone: BYOB (Bring Your Own Buddy) Mini-Series
All of the PlayTRE4Life sessions require that you already know the basics of TRE® and know a little about self-regulation as well as what to expect from your system after a session.
Last year, around this time, we decided to start hosting free Full Moon Shakes for TRE® Providers to get together, shake together and support each other through a stressful year.
This year we want to make the offer even bigger: so long as you know TRE® and are comfortable to self-regulate, come and do a shake with us!
We want to support your self-care
In the wake of the ineffability of 2020, remembering to take care of ourselves so that we can bolster our own capacity for resilience and to be there for those who need us is more important than ever. Things are still uncertain and while there is hope on the horizon, for many of us, the light at the end of the tunnel might still feel a bit far off to be heaving sighs of relief just yet.
That is why we want to offer again this year to host a space for anyone who wants a timeout, a safe space to be with others who are also open, caring, empathic individuals; a time when there is no pressure and no expectations beyond respecting that you are taking time to take care of yourself while knowing that you’re among kindred spirits.
This year, we’re making it easier for everyone to remember when our sessions run by having them on every last Sunday of each calendar month at the same time:
SG (GMT+8) 5pm
The person who always has the power to change your life is the one who looks back at you from the mirror each morning.
Take care of that person, always.
Flow of a Session
Brief Meet-N-Greet & Intention Setting
We would like to encourage networking and connecting between all practitioners of TRE® and so we want to give you a chance to introduce yourself briefly and to perhaps state the intention you wish to declare for your shake session.
A 20-minute Timed Shake
Eric and I will provide the timing frame for the session and occasional time check-ins, but no provision beyond that. If the group is open to it on that day, we might encourage in-shake sharing about what we notice is happening with our systems, or perhaps something we feel moved to try. We might also use music for some sessions… Who knows? We’re open to letting the feel of the group dictate the session!
Eric or I will time a 3-minute integration in silence so that you can be sure to have time to let your system settle and for you to check in with what has shifted during the session.
Sharing Reflections & Self-Acknowledgement
As practitioners of TRE®, we know that giving the words to our experience can be important as part of integration and in support of whatever our system has brought up for processing, so we want to make sure there is time for this. We also want to remind everyone that acknowledging ourselves for showing up for our own self-care is also important!
Monthly Community Shake Dates
Monthly Community Shakes
Join us for our FREE minimal intervention TRE® shake sessions on the last Sunday of every month:
30 MAY 26 SEPTEMBER 27 JUNE 31 OCTOBER 25 JULY 28 NOVEMBER 29 AUGUST 26 DECEMBER
We had an interesting beginning to the New Year. We were approached by our TRE® Trainer who is also on the Board of Directors for TRE® for All to make a voluntary contribution of our time for the TRE® Advanced Training Online which ran in February this year. The details that lead up to the request are not for me to divulge, but Eric and I thought that it would be a good opportunity to get to know more people from the TRE® community as well as to provide our support for the sharing and development of TRE®, so we said “yes”.
Learning at a run
The work turned out to be quite a bit more challenging than we had initially thought, including having to learn how to edit a website which had been set up in a way which was unfamiliar to us in addition to having to help registrants sort out payment related matters and deal with questions which we didn’t always have the answers for simply because it took time for information and decisions by the board to trickle down to us.
I can’t speak for Eric, but it was a steep learning curve for me, especially the more technical aspects of the work. And as the course date drew closer, it seemed like everything intensified because many people were keen to attend the workshop. In the end, the initial target we had been set turned out to be modest because we had about 300 sign ups.
It was an amazing experience to get to be a part of the bringing of the event together, and we were fortunate to have great support in terms of the people from the board whom we were able to turn to for help, as well as from the original organizers of the event when it had been planned as an on-site event before Covid-19 had forced a change of plans.
Finally, it was time to attend the workshop itself and it didn’t disappoint. Apart from the featured speakers, Dr. David Berceli, Dr. Stephen Porges and Dr. Sue Carter, there were many other experienced TRE® community trainers and providers who stepped up to share what they had been practicing in their communities, and it was tremendously enriching to watch and listen to everyone.
Some of my key takeaways from the whole experience include:
The 2021 TRE® Online Advanced Training ran from 13 – 16 February this year, and we hope they will run a similar event again because we learnt so much from attending!
While it didn’t require any kind of tech genius to make it happen, I’m proud of having been able to contribute the schedule poster for the event. The coloured table below were the time zones for participants to have an easier time (hopefully) getting a sense of when the workshops would be running live for where they were.
The most important thing is
to be present to the being that is in front of you.
While there is some solid science behind our ability to co-regulate and to vibrationally affect the spaces that we occupy, there is something exceptionally powerful about being in the space of someone who has allowed you to be a witness to what they are going through and what they are processing, and it is similarly powerful for you to let them know that you see them, you receive them and you are there for them.
It is the whole WHY of my choosing to become a coach, a TRE® provider, a CST therapist;
it is part of why teaching is still a passion for me even though I want to explore teaching new things in a new way in this phase of my life.
If, right here, right now, I was present to the being in front of me, what joy, what wonder,
would I be giving myself the chance to experience?
Grounding myself by keeping the bigger picture in view.
There were so many challenges along the way, some of them technical, some of them human and some of them simply emerging from within as old things got triggered and brought to the surface to let me know they were still there.
And when at one point things had taken an unexpected turn and Eric and I were presented an opportunity to tap out, we decided that we would stick with it because of the bigger picture.
And the bigger picture that really grounded me more than anything wasn’t that the event was happening right the next week or even that if we stepped out, someone would have to scramble to fill the gap, but that these are the choices that make up the journey of our souls, all our souls together toward becoming more wise, more the versions of ourselves that we work hard every day to get closer to being. And on that journey, I wasn’t about to give up on myself or on what I knew I could do to make things happen.
What would life be if I took care to remind myself to be grounded in this knowing all the time?
What we need is to live by love, not fear
There was a whole segment of content that was entirely about the kinds of hormones / chemicals / molecules that our bodies produce which create different kinds of effects under stress of when we are calm and open to bonding. And while I was listening I thought: how very interesting because I have been on a journey to explore how I could live more from love rather than fear and what that means, and to hear how much it shows up in our bio-chemistry – that human connection is what makes co-regulation possible and keeps people safe during TRE® sessions and helps with people feeling safe enough, supported enough to start processing what they need to process anyway. It was what makes us open to healing ourselves, and when we feel confident that we can heal ourselves, we believe even more that we can heal our communities.
Sitting and listening and then doing the TRE® shakes with the community for the sessions we managed to attend live (some of the US timings were less than ideal for us here in Singapore) and feeling that connection, that sense of community despite not really knowing anyone, it really made me wonder: Really, is loving so hard?
What kind of a world would I be helping to create if I could just be a little more open to love today, enough to heal even a small part of myself? And what if, having experienced that healing, I perhaps come to the conclusion that I have the courage to love a little more after all?
I am grateful that we had the opportunity to participate in the way that we did, to not merely attend but to be involved in helping to bring the event together, to close the gap and to feel that we contributed to an amazing event.
More than that, although Eric and I had already formulated the idea of , I really felt my creativity get a kick in the butt after the training: I knew better what I wanted to do and what I wanted us to be able to offer, not just to certified TRE® Providers but to all people who need some TRE® to help them heal and to help them cope, people who want to explore what TRE® – and their systems – could be. Much of the clarity that we arrived at came by way of this burst of creativity, and we are excited to move forward and bring what we have to everyone!